Grace & Arrows Linkup #2 – Perfect Marriage
Is there such thing as a perfect marriage? Do women always enter into marriage with a dream of the perfect fairytale lasting forever? Have we watched too many romance movies and read to many romance novels that we have unrealistic expectations? What happens when we realize that our “perfect” marriage isn’t so perfect?
Brina Lynn, My featured guest wrote about this in her article titled Our Perfect Marriage Was in the Toilet & Why It Was a Good Thing.
This article is an amazing display of love, courage, forgiveness, and redemption when a marriage was broken by one act. I admire Brina and her husband Chris, for sharing their story in hopes to touch other couples who experience struggles in what was once seen as a perfect marriage.
Our ‘Perfect’ Marriage Was in the Toilet
For those who don’t know our story, two Januarys ago we hit the worst patch we’d ever experienced. Chris confessed to me his addiction to pornography, and we began to unravel. Our ‘perfect’ marriage began to fall completely apart. It has taken many months to be in a good place again, and still, there are issues we face–trust and insecurity, mostly. But overall, God has done an amazing work; in fact, He’s still working in our hearts and in our marriage.
On this side of broken marriage vows (yes, that’s what using porn is) and healing (I’m so thankful for healing), I can’t help but reflect. Our marriage has been greatly blessed; our relationship has been restored, but it was broken. Completely severed. I wanted nothing more of the whole thing; yet, I couldn’t leave. I hated with all that was in me what my husband had done, what he put us through. My mind and heart screamed silently, almost constantly. Yet, that Unseen Hand reached down into our pit and lifted us slowly out. And as He brought us out, I began to realize some things.
That September (2015), we had left a pastorate and started going to a church in our town. What’s funny is how awkward we felt there…like we didn’t belong, yet we couldn’t leave, and we couldn’t not go. It was God drawing us and keeping us there. I know that now. This is a place where you are free to worship, in whatever way that may be. For us, at that time in our lives–I was 8ish months pregnant with number 7–it was sitting together, heads bowed, tears streaming. We knew something was missing in our lives, and we felt that [in this place] God was pouring His word and His love over us.
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